When life gives you lemons, do you make lemonade?

When life gives you lemons, do you make lemonade?

A blog by: Nina

We have all heard the expression when life gives you lemons saying a time or two but can we all agree that allowing that saying to sink in while implementing a positive action can be so daunting at times?!

This year has been such a whirlwind of year in general because of Covid, major civil rights movements, rioting, the occasional alien sighting, ending of the world predictions & the presidential election, ALL HAPPENING AT ONCE. Are you like me and feel so worn, so broken, so uncertain about where life is going because of all the unknowns?

Well, since I feel like everyone needs a little encouragement these days, I am going to share 5 of my latest favorite quotes that always seem to lift me up just as soon as I’ve started to feel down.

Starting with:

• Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does. – William James

• You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. – C.S. Lewis

• You do not find the happy life. You make it. – Camilla Eyring Kimball

• The most wasted of days is one without laughter.- E.E. Cummings

• We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.- Joseph Cambell

This blog is going to be short & sweet this week so that you can feel uplifted, let go of the negativity & exude positivity. I encourage you to draw inspiration from whatever brings you joy, peace & hope.

I would love to read some of your very favorite quotes too! Drop them in the comments below!

Until next time.

Xo, Nina.

The Road to Finding ME!

The Road to Finding ME!

A blog by: Lily

Hello, beauties!

My sister has been hounding me to write my intro for the past two weeks now and like the PROcrastinator I am, I waited till the last second.

My name is Lily, and I’m about the most laid back anxiety-ridden person you will ever meet. When it comes to my body, I have struggled a lot through the years. As a female, there are so many body standards portrayed in the media, and growing up I thought I just had to look a certain way. What’s funny is my mother, being one of my best friends taught me to love who I am and that I am enough. But late at night I just thought of all the flaws I saw in myself and would obsess over them. The friends I had back then were all skinny and fabulous but I thought I was neither. I tried so hard to fit in and I wasted countless times trying to be them. (Looking back now, what a waste of time)
Why did I feel the need to be self-destructive starting at such a young age? It’s because I wanted to fit in so badly and be the cool girl for once.

Moving through my middle school years into my high school years I still felt at a loss with myself. I was growing as a person but still had so much self-hate. There I was late at night laying in bed and nitpicking everything I didn’t like about myself. I would say horrible things to myself, I would start a new fad diet and it would only last a week. Then the cycle would start again. Late nights, self-hate, fad diets. What a crazy time and I wish I could go back and shake myself out of it.

Moving on to graduating and joining the Military, I was actually in the best shape of my life. Skinny and thriving, everything I wanted and I still wasn’t happy. Bad relationship after bad relationship and I was starting to get depressed and become such a recluse. Then I met the man of my dreams. Funny story that is, but I’ll tell you that some other time. Married, dual military and gaining that happy relationship weight. Unfortunately, that happiness didn’t last long. What started my downward spiral was him being gone all the time. Days, weeks, months. Back to back deployments, then I was gone for months here and there. I was back to being lonely and hating my life and on his second deployment, I hit rock bottom. I gained 50lbs. I was ashamed of myself. I would take my anger out on him and he would lose his patience and we wouldn’t speak for days. Finally, he sat me down and said “hey, I think you need to talk to someone. I can’t help you the way a therapist could.” He was right and I knew it. That day changed my life around. I started talking to a therapist, I started going back to the gym and eating right, I decided to get out of the military and move back home.

Finally, in a good headspace and on the up and up I’m back surrounded by family. Getting out of the Military and living with my sister helped the transition that I was going through. I don’t think I would be where I am at right now if it wasn’t for my sister. She is truly my best friend and someone that gets me in every single way possible.

I knew that it was my time to take over my life and become the woman I wanted to be. Confident in the skin I’m in, happy with where I am at in life, and living it. Me deciding to take control changed my mindset on how I went about doing things. I’m not letting people who don’t matter affect my decisions. I’m a people pleaser and would say yes to everything, now I choose who I say yes to and I don’t feel bad when I say no. I have made my circle of friends small and keep positive people around that boost me up in everything I do.

YOU get to choose how you live your life.
Once you stop making excuses for why you can’t do things, YOUR whole life changes for the better. Take that step to putting YOURSELF first. You deserve every bit of happiness in this word. Seize every moment, every opportunity, every chance at a better you, and see were your life ends up.

What are you doing to better yourself today? Tell me about it !! I honestly would love to know, so leave a comment and spill the tea sis!

Taking the Steps to Become a Better Me!

Taking the Steps to Become a Better Me!

A Blog By: Nina

Hello all!

Can you believe this is my first blog EVER?!? I hope you try not to get caught up in the silly little grammatical errors and just focus on the big picture and that’s my story telling. 

A little back story … *ahem* 

2005-2009

In high school I was crazy obsessed with being in shape & couldn’t see past the 3 cellulite dimples on the back of my legs so I worked out twice a day and tried all the latest diet fads at the time, just so I could keep up with the cool crowed. You would think I’d be happy back then right?! Well, surprise surprise I wasn’t . 

2010-2013

As time passed & after a couple of really earth shattering breakups later, I got less obsessive with working out & way more obsessive with junk food. I ate to celebrate, to grieve, to socialize etc. & you would think that I was just living my best life over here but again, I was not. 

2014-2017

Some more time passed & I finally got the kick in the tush I needed by my aunt Anna’, to become more serious about my health. She got me an awesome trainer & alas, 4 grueling months later, I was 42 pounds down and feeling better than ever! In this same year I met a real hottie who I now call my husband. He’s kept me on my toes ever since, so my mind stayed busy & my soul belonged to him… the diet & exercise just came with the territory of being a “new couple”, I suppose.  

2018-2019

So, you know the drill by now. More time passed & I thought that my mind, body & soul were completely fulfilled, until I found out I was pregnant. PREGNANT! Gosh, I had talked about it with my husband before, but actually being pregnant brought so many fears to mind with the biggest one being, how much weight I would likely gain in 9 months. Crazy enough, I only gained 37 pounds throughout my entire pregnancy & lost 25 of it 3 days post partum. It was after childbirth that put me into a spiral. I was breast feeding, starving, hormonal & not taking care of myself mentally or physically, which lead me to regaining all the weight I had just lost! As you can imagine, I was devastated once I finally took the plunge to step on the scale after a pair of my ‘big’ shorts  no longer fit me. 

2020 – CORONA’S YEAR 

 Since this was the last year I had before turning the big 3 0, I realized It just wouldn’t be right to start the next decade doing the same things over & over, trying to achieve new results- you know… INSANITY?! I knew that this year had to be different. I had to stop thinking that others could carry me to the finish line of success & start thinking about what I was going to do to make a complete lifestyle change to help better myself for the rest of my life. I’ve always put stock in others helping me along the way when the drive has been tucked away inside me the whole time and I just wasn’t working hard enough to bring ‘her’ to the surface. I have to give my sister a huge shout out and thanks for being my biggest cheerleader & number one confidant during this time…… Love you Lily!

Since coming to this realization, both my sister and I have completely shaken things up and have been in the ‘treat yoself’ mode but not in the give me another slice of cake notion. We been treating our mind, body & spirit. 

How you ask?

Well, I will have to let Lily tell you her own story in her blog but I personally have been working on changing my mind by listening to many different uplifting podcasts from some really rad women. I’m also working on bettering my body by fueling it with healthy food instead of junk food. Most importantly, Iv’e treated my soul by going completely zen during a massage, mediating & singing worship music again. Basically, I am finally focusing on my life as a whole instead of filling voids with peoples views of me & food. 

I’m learning that you really can live a balanced lifestyle. All it takes is waking up and wanting to make those changes EVERY SINGLE DAY. 

I’ll leave you with this…

We have 24 hours a day, 7 days a week & I’m finally making 0 excuses! 

What kind of changes are you making this year to better yourself? Leave me a comment & tell me all about it!